在别人给我提供建议后我该说些什么好呢?
2023-08-11 汤沐之邑 2042
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What do I say after someone gives you a good advice?

在别人给我提供建议后我该说些什么好呢?

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Thathagath Kapur, Universal Spiritual Scientist. (2011-present)
It depends, is it free advice or advice, i paid for?
Coming from whom, is that person has any hidden agenda?
Is it a general thought?

这要看情况,看建议是免费的还是我花钱买的?
这个主意谁给的,那个人有什么背景吗?
此主意是随便就可以想到的吗?

I believe, God uses other people mouths, sometimes to tell us what to do? But I never look for others approval.
I have sometimes shrugged off, some advices given to me, but when I came home and meditated on them and if they had brought me some good transformation, I accept those advices.

我认为,有时候上帝会通过别人的嘴告诉我们该怎么做?但我从不寻求别人的认可。
我有时会对别人给我的一些建议不屑一顾,但当我回到家里细想这些建议后,如果它们给我带来了一些好的转变,我就会接受这些建议。

I may react differently, when somebody give advice which is unasked for, but once its reached my mind, it would be dissected thoroughly, and later after a great thought, I sometimes go and give that person feedback, with proper reasoning, and gratitude.
I go deeper on that advice, if I have gone already further on The data they are advicing me on, I give them my analysis, which I have already done on the subject, most of the time people do not like that, but I believe, I added to the thought, and they would reach from that further, if they find that addition proper to the advice.

当有人主动给我一些建议时候,我可能会有不同的反应,但一旦它进入我的脑海,它就会被彻底剖析,后来经过一个慎重思考后,我也许会去给那个人反馈,并带着适当的推理和感激之情。
如果我已经对他们的建议做过更深入的数据论证和研究,我会给他们看我的分析,并告诉他们我已经在这个问题上论证过,大多数时候人们不喜欢这样,但是我相信,我对此作了补充,如果他们觉得这种补充对该建议来说是合适的,他们也会从中得到更多。

I did lots of research on Dogs, while travelling in India, treated them, fed them, I know things, that few vets knows, when I discuss, some people tell me something and I tell them somethings you I meet lots of dog haters, what to worry about them, if you respect them, I can go to a crazy dog, without getyi g bitten.
I often hear, story away fro dogs they might bite you?
You get rabies?
I do not take those advices.

我做了很多关于狗的研究,在印度旅行的时候,给它们治疗,喂养它们,我知道一些兽医都很少知道的事情,当我讨论的时候,一些人告诉我一些事情,我也告诉他们另外一些事情,我遇到很多讨厌狗的人,他们会担心什么呢,其实你尊重它们就好,我甚至可以去一只疯狗面前,同样不会被咬。
我经常听到,关于狗可能会咬你的故事?
被咬可能会得狂犬病呢?我不接受那些建议的。

Sometimes people force advice on me, while, I am advicibg, adviciing business is difficult, both giving and taking.
I think Doctor, does not only have to learn about Medicine, its also how you give advice, thats must be the big part of the practice, I hope they teach that in medical college, but I do not see that side of Education is shown in movies.

有时人们会强迫我提建议,要知道我本身是个咨询师,咨询业务很难,既给予建议也需要接受一些建议。
我认为医生,不仅要学习医学,还需要了解如何给出建议,这一定是实践的重要部分,我希望在医学院可以教授这一点,但在目前教育体系中我看不到有相关课程。

Abhishek Shastri, Skeptic. Prefers logic over emotions.
I have been smoking cigarettes for some time now, with half year hiatuses every now and then. If I had a rupee for every time someone told me cigarettes will kill me, well, I could probably buy a pack of Marlboro Reds.
How is this relevant? Most of the people who have advised me over this have been complete strangers. My point being, giving life advices needs so little effort and thought, people don't even hesitate to give it to complete strangers, on a whim.

​我已经学会抽烟,半年来时不时地需要抽烟。如果每次我抽烟是有个人告诉我香烟会害死我,我可能会买一包万宝路还有红葡萄酒。
这有什么关系?大多数为我提供建议的人都是陌生人。我的观点是,给他人忠告不需要太多的努力和思考,人们甚至会毫不犹豫地把它送给完全陌生的人,甚至仅仅一时兴起而已。
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I look at it in one of two ways.

这个问题得从两个方面来看。

One : You're giving me advice because you, someone close to you, or someone you've heard about suffered a loss or other consequence. I fail to see how it is relevant to me. What went wrong for them doesn't necessarily have to go wrong for me.

第一:你给我建议是因为你,你身边的人,或者你听说过有人遭受了损失或其他后果。我不明白这和我有什么关系。他们出了问题,但不一定我身上也会出问题。
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Two : You have too much free time and/or nothing better to do. Well, what you may advise me on may benefit me or may be relevant to me, but I'd still rather take your advise with a grain of salt, if I'm not completely ignoring it.
Either case, if what they are saying is something new that I don't know about or have never thought of, I'll listen to them. If I think it'll work for me, I'll act on it. Though, if their advise is something which is too obvious, or something I've thought of beforehand and rejected; I'd rather make my own mistakes, thank you.

第二:你有太多的空闲时间或没有其他更好的事情可做。好吧,你给我的建议也许对我有好处,也可能与我有关,但即使我没有完全忽视你的建议,我还是宁愿持保留态度。
不过,如果他们说的是我不知道或从未想过的新东西,我都会听他们的。如果我认为这对我有用,我会采取行动的。不过,如果他们的建议太肤浅了,或者是我事先想到并拒绝过的,那我宁愿自己犯错误,谢谢。

Luce Mayhem, Artist, Athiest, Activist, Advocate & Asshat (2001-present)
If I get good advice I will thank the giver for it when I know it’s good
I love it when someone rearranges my perception of a problem. Unpacking it on my own and finding a solution usually comes pretty easily to me, but there are the odd conundrums that I just can’t get my head around alone. I often ask for advice.

如果我得到了有用的时建议的时候,我会表达感谢。
我喜欢有人一起探讨我对问题的看法。我自己把问题看透,然后找到一个解决方案通常是相当容易的,但也有一些奇怪的难题,导致我不能独自处理它。所以需要经常征求意见。

I also get perspective and advice from a few sources, whether I’ve asked for it or not but I do try to consider it even if I don’t follow it.

我也会从其他渠道得到一些观点和建议,不管我是否主动要求的,即使我听不进去,但我也会考虑的。

If someone unintentionally gives me rubbish advice I’ll be less inclined to ask them for advice in future, but I won’t hold it against them especially if it’s advice I asked for directly.

如果有人给了我一些毫无意义的建议,我以后就不会再向他们征求意见了,但我不会反对他们,尤其是如果这是我主动要求的建议。

Robin Thomas, counselor cum psychotherapist
It is better to listen than to merely hear out someone ,you never know when a bolt of lightening in the form of realisation could change and transform your life as well as others ,or what inspiration may fill your spirit .Look at what people say as a suggestion ,not advice ,sermon , or an order .Don,t argue,discuss,debate ,or reject what someone says ,just listen ,nod your head ,put it away for future ref .You know whenever there is a talk ,seminar ,or workshop ,we light a lamp ,which has a wick,and oil filled in .The lamp is lit and just stands in a corner and burns out .But there is great meaning in this lighting ,which is from vedic times .The wick represents ego,the flame represents arrogance ,and the oil represents ignorance. So when the wick ,ego burns out and becomes black ,the flame arrogance goes off ,but the important thing is the ignorance ,oil which feeds the ego is empty.And once ignorance is gone ,you wake up to the reality ,the truth,humble down and listen to the talk ,with renewed inspiration ,. The ego and arrogance are big obstacles in our life ,they perpetuate our ignorance ,and delusion that we know it all . Listen ,ignore what is not relevant,but gratefully take in what makes a difference . Whether it comes from a roadside vendors ,a kid,autodriver,gurus and speakers ,CEOs ,big guys small guys all guys ,men and women ,listen ,you never know what may evolve from a few words ,and how you will emerge .

听明白别人说的意思是很有必要的,你永远不知道什么时候会有个主意能改变你和其他人的生活,也不知道灵感什么时候出现。把人们说的看作是一种建议,而不是说教或命令。不要争论、讨论、辩论,或者拒绝别人说的话,只要听,点头,把它记起来就好,以备将来参考。你知道的,无论什么时候的演讲或研讨会,就如同我们都会点亮一盏灯,灯上有灯芯,里面装满了油。灯亮了,就可以照亮一个角落。这种照明有着非常重要的意义,它来自吠陀时代,灯芯代表自我,火焰代表傲慢,油代表无知。所以当小我的灯芯烧坏变黑时,傲慢的火焰就会熄灭,但重要的是无知,滋养自我的油是空的。还有一旦无知消失了,你就会在现实中醒悟过来从而明白真相,一旦谦卑点,注意聆听,就能获得新的灵感。自大和傲慢是我们生活中的最大障碍,它们使我们的无知和自以为是的错觉长期存在。因此要忽略那些无关紧要的事情,带感激的心态地接受那些不同的声音。至于这些声音是否来自路边的小贩,小孩,汽车司机还是大师级演讲者,CEO,大人物,小人物等所有的男人和女人都不重要,因为你永远不知道从他们说的话中可以得到什么,以及你将如何凭此脱颖而出。
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Khawaja Saud Masud, In the school of life, I share from personal experience
To yourself say “I must help others with thoughtful and sound advice one day” so you pay it forward. Also you would need to build a generous and growth mindset to be able to give non generic and well-targeted guidance.

自我暗示:“总有一天,我要用深思熟虑和合理的建议来帮助别人”,这样能不断强化信念。此外,你还需要建立一种慷慨和积极上进的心态,以便能够给予不一般的、有针对性的指导。

To the advisor other than thank you, always share how their advice helped you directly and indirectly. Follow up and feedback post someone’s help shows how much you really valued their time and opinion. Sometimes it’s just as powerful as a genuine thank you.

对于导师,除了说“谢谢你”,还要经常直接或间接地要他们分享对你有帮助的建议。及时给别人的帮助送去反馈信息表明你是多么重视他们的时间和意见。有时候这比一句真诚的谢谢更好。
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If just hearing the advice did some good for you well before it’s application, ask your advisor if you may share this advice with others and give your reference. This also shows your gratitude and the impact their advice has had on you. You never know you may inspire the advisor to do further good in the world based on your kind and timely feedback.

如果在仅仅听到这些建议时就觉得对你有帮助的话,问问你的导师你是否可以和其他人分享这些建议并给出你的参考意见。这也表达了你的感激之情以及他们的建议对你的影响。你永远不会知道,你的善意和及时的反馈可能会激励导师在这个世界上做更多的好事。

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